How to break up like a man
What happens when you realize that you need to end a relationship? If you want to date like a man, you’re going to have to learn how to break up like a man as well. There are a lot of rules that men need to follow during the break up phase. The first thing you have to remember is an important paradox: a man will not be able to attract the right woman for him until he’s worked out his insecurities, but he will not be able to get rid of his insecurities until he’s dated a lot of women and learned to overcome them.
Like it or not, you will have many failed relationships before you find the right one. It’s impossible for anyone to learn how to be in a successful relationship without having experienced several of them. For the sake of discussion, we’re going to refer to losing control of notes your mind as “losing your mind” in this chapter. When you lose your mind, you have to find your body. You can use your body to regain control over your mind by putting your body in a position that will trigger a thought process that will link an emotion to the way your body is moving. The simplest example of this is that if you force yourself to smile, you’ll actually start to feel happier.
The opposite is also true. If you’re acting weak, you can remind yourself to feel stronger and your body will naturally assume a more dominant pose. Normally we have more control over our bodies than we do over our minds, so checking in with your body during a very emotional time like a break up is very important. You must have dominant, confident body language when you are ending a relationship because you will lose your mind otherwise. There are a few things you must do before you begin the process of breaking up with a woman. The first thing you need to do is clear up a large amount of time, because breaking up usually takes four times longer than you think it will.
You can’t break up with a woman and immediately leave, or you will leave her in an emotional state in which she feels unaccepted and abandoned. A horrendous storm might follow, but a badass will sit through it. Budget a couple of hours for this process.
Next, make sure that you have something quiet to do post-break up, preferably with a friend. After a break up, you’re going to experience an intense series of emotions. In the beginning you’ll feel free and relieved that everything is over with, but after a while you’ll starting feeling alone and scared. Because a part of you had an emotional association with the woman and she’s now gone, your feelings will vacillate between jumping up high and sinking down low. Many of your feelings are anchored to her, so when you start feeling excited, your excitement will trigger a memory of her and you will become sad again. As new experiences come along, your anchors will reset and your emotions will even out.